Now that you have admitted and accepted that you were abused because YOU made poor choice and/or you allowed the abuser inside your head to rip out your Logic, you need to go back to the 4th Ethic and amend your Self-Law, Self-Rules, and Boundaries. 

Boundaries :

How close should I allow someone before I trust them? 

How long should I assess someone before I trust them?

What tests should I use to determine if I can trust someone? 

Did I trust someone too soon?

At what point did I trust my Abuser too soon?

At what point did I fail to assess my Abuser at all? 

At what point did I allow my Abuser access to me? 

Note: 

“I was a child.” 

Well, then… You WERE a child. This WAS not your fault. They are really fucked up. And you now know who they really are. And you DON’T and WON’T allow them access to you anymore. 

Rules : 

I am going to create “red flags” that tell me when someone is Toxic.

I am going to look for 3 Red Flags when I meet someone knew. 

I am going to learn how Abusers talk so I can find their Red Flags. 

I am going to raise my standards so I can see when someone is toxic around me. 

I am going to DENY ACCESS to people who are not good for me. 

I am not going to allow Gossip around me. 

If someone shows Red Flags, I will NOT give them a warning or tell them to stop. I WILL LEAVE and REMOVE MYSELF from the situation. 

See the difference?