Uncertainty is easily the most obsessed emotion available to us.
Within moments of suspecting uncertainty looming in the background, we develop a heightened sense of awareness. We panic. We enter “Fear Response” and our Fear Systems… our Jerry awakens.
Within subconscious moments, are minds are busy at work seeking “safety” in the unknown. We obsess, overthink, plan, ruminate. We plot, direct, and move into position to seek out the advantage point to guarantee certainty and eliminate the danger.
We seek to control.
For someone who often pursues Manifestation, this is quite counter-productive, as you can imagine. I’m in a bit of an unusual situation.
I live in an apartment where, at any moment, any day, my Narcissistic roommate with multiple assault and harassment charges against him could come barging into my peaceful, zen home and abuse me, destroy my possessions, and assault my cat.
I live constantly in the state of uncertainty, which has made me get up close and personal with uncertainty.
Meanwhile, a love interest of mine may or may not call me up one day to tell me he has a date or a girlfriend. Sending my romantic world into… well.. upheaval. More uncertainty.
I delve deeper into this.
What exactly is the connection between a lack of Safety and Uncertainty.
This leads me to one of my favorite, and severely neglected topics in Psychology: The Trauma by Association: Emotions as Triggers.
Too often when we talk about “triggers” in PTSD or Trauma, we think of objects. Spiders. Yelling. Black and White checkered flooring. Smells. Phrases used.
“I’m going to take the knob off your door,” sends my daughter into a full panic accompanied with hysterics.
Smelling cigarettes and/or cigars triggers my PTSD.
Men yelling.
But we rarely look into the emotional triggers of… well… emotions.
We rarely think or talk about how the emotions themselves trigger additional fear emotions. And, one of the things that really fascinates me about this subject, is that MOST people are triggered to have the SAME emotional response (Fear and feeling unsafe) by the SAME emotions! It’s fascinating!
Here is what I mean…
Take Uncertainty. Almost everyone has a problem with uncertainty. Uncertainty is an emotion that triggers another emotion, the SAME emotion, in almost everyone: Feeling Unsafe. And we almost all always have the same knee-jerk reaction to this emotion: Seek CONTROL.
Control is, in most cases, the Go-To Action that everyone associates with Feeling Safe.
But there is a problem with this approach.
IT DOESN’T WORK.
Why?
Because we cannot CONTROL the Future. But our conscious minds don’t think about this because our Subconscious Minds have been programmed by abuse to CONTROL a situation.
So what is the correct solution?
Wait. There’s more.
Uncertainty isn’t the only emotion that triggers “Unsafe!” in us.
- Unloved, Unseen, Ignored, Neglect triggers “Unsafe!”
- Fear triggers “Unsafe!”
- Guilt triggers “Unsafe!”
- Not controlling others triggers “Unsafe!”
- Uncertainty triggers “Unsafe!”
In every one of these examples, the EMOTIONS themselves are the Emotional Triggers that set off a Cognitive chain-reaction of “PURSUE SAFETY” by our Subconscious. And the solution? It is the same for each. “CONTROL.”
What enfolds in every one of these circumstances is a deterioration of illogical, irrational, panicked, desperate actions led by the Fear System to “OBTAIN CONTROL” and re-establish a feeling of SAFETY.
But this feeling of Safety is a DELUSION of safety.
Instead of establishing safety, the individual achieves a co-dependent loop of micro-management that expels so much energy as to cause burn out, exhaustion, and mental paralysis in some cases where the mental illness is nourished.
Calm is temporarily restored to the individual as they implement a balancing act that would make PT Barnum’s tight rope walkers green with envy.
So what is the solution?
Turning on and utilizing your Defense System and soothing to the point of turning down your Fear System.
The follow up question is HOW.
And that… is exactly what I teach.
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