The Perspective War.
That is what you are really doing.
Through abuse, primarily, the abuse we experience from our Parents, our Subconscious Minds have been weaponized against us and used against us. Our Fear Systems and Mind wages war against our Identity and we, as individuals cease to exist.
The more we are shaped into “model citizens” and the Perfect Inauthentic expectations of our parents, the less we become ourselves at a time when we are supposed to be defining the Self and celebrating the Self, Self Expression, Authority, and our discovering the power of our own voice.
By the time we are 20, we have ceased to exist as Individuals. Instead of a nurturing, thriving existence, we are replicated models of our parents, playing the avatar to our parent’s dreams and expectations so they can live vicariously through us to achieve their “American Dream.” They have used us to achieve their dream life, and no part of our own Individuality exists.
“What ideal have your parents made you?” Is their dream of you to be quiet? Obedient? Married? A Doctor? With Children? Living in the suburbs? Thin? Well-Groomed? Or did they expect you to be a sloven failure that mirrored their own limitations as a constant boost to their ego so they don’t feel as bad about their own filth and disgust? What did your parents make of you?
In Trauma Recovery, we are Reviving the Self and resurrecting the Identity. But we have a conditioned Fear System and Subconscious Mind that is ready to enforce the agenda of our abusers: Our parents.
As you begin your Trauma Healing, your Ego and your Identity awaken and your awareness grows. And the opponent? Your own Subconscious Mind. You will toggle between what you want and desire (Your Identity) and the Conditioned Expectations of your Subconscious Mind.
Understanding how the Subconscious Mind works and how strong it behaves will go a long way in helping you understand what kind of a war you have ahead of you. You will jump between two states of mind : The Empowered Self and “Trauma Grief.”
During the Empowered Self, you will Define the Self. You will celebrate your Identity. You’ll find ways to Express yourself as you discover who you are. You’ll get the haircut you’ve always wanted. You may get body piercings and tattoos. You’ll try new foods and travel. You may enjoy new sex partners or head to the bar and embrace the party scene. You’ll feel thrill and adventure and fun as you finally break free to embrace Self-Expression as Identity Defines the Self! And then you’ll suffer the Backlash.
Fits of shame that plunge you into self-loathing, despair, and depression as your Subconscious Mind “Punishes” you for “Disappointing the Dreams and Expectations” of your parents. This is the desperate attempt of your Subconscious Mind to get you “back to safety” where you are obedient to your parents. “The Trauma Grief” will, at times, require that you “sleep in the mud.”
Trauma Recovery is a marathon. It is not a sprint. During the Empowered Self, you’ll fly and feel like an unstoppable God. You will discover The God Self. During The Trauma Grief, you’ll plummet, dropping you to the ground as despair and self-loathing take you down. You’ll bounce back and you’ll sprint toward the light, out of the Darkness only to drop again into despair as the Subconscious Mind takes you down.
Learn to separate your Fear System and your Subconscious Mind from your Expectations. Learn to separate the two. Learn to shift your Perspective outside of your mind and practice “isolating” and compartmentalizing your entire Fear System so that, during The Trauma Grief, you can step back and “Cage” the Fear System, allowing you to separate yourself and your Identity from your Subconscious Mind.
And then you can subdue it.
And then you can stand above it.
And then you can discipline it.
And that is where you will master it.
Separate the Fear System from your Identity. Unbecome Your Fear and watch your life become yours.
Compartmentalization is a natural method of Defense used by the Fear System and the Subconscious Mind. In Triadic Healing, you will learn how to use the Mind’s natural Defense against itself to heal.
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