The Narcissist Law

• “This is for your own good.”
• Narcissists ATTACK YOUR RESPONSIBILTY. They go right for “the kill.”
• Narcissists avoid Vulnerability AT ALL COSTS.
• Narcissists COMPROMISE, Manipiulate, and Attack the Equal Footing to always have the Upper Hand
• Narcissists are kind over-givers with BIG promises… that never deliver… BUT… they will “bread crumb” you to “show good faith.”
• BE AWARE of GIFTS without TRADE… – Because that compromises the equal footing.
• Narcissists accuse others of being Narcissists
• Narcissists use a SPECIFIC language UNIQUE ONLY to Narcissists
• Narcissism has 4 Stages to it.
• Narcisissts are blind to their own Narcissism
• The 1st and 2nd Stage of Narcissism is INVISBLE
• The 3rd Stage of Narcissism is ONLY VISBLE to OTHERS, never the Narcisst themselves
• Narcisissts surround themselves with people who will save them and allow them to save them
• Narcissism has TWO SIDE
• The SAVIOR, the Super Hero
• The DAMSEL, the INVALID
• Helping others is MORE TOXIC than needing help.
• Narcissists talk in terms of debts and loans
• Narcissists weaponize words, emotions, and gifts.
• Narcissists RUN ON FEAR
• Narcissists “paint a picutre”
• Narcissists are PARANOID.
• Narcissists think “If you want something DONE, you’ve got to do it yourself.”
• Narcissists think, “I can’t trust anyone.”
• 100% of Narcissism is bred, cultivated, nurtured all in the LANGUAGE, and them the PROMISE that GIVES Emotional Rush or the THREAT that gives FEAR RUSH, then USES GIFTS and/or money WITH OR WITHOUT PROMISES to
• Narcissists WILL USE EMPATHY to show you “they understand you.
• Narcissists WILL offer to pamper you, often with intent in kindness.
• Narcissists are OBLIVIOUS to
• Narcissist WILL NOT EMPOWER YOU with Encouragement.
• Narcissist will use words to ENCOURAGE, PROMISE RESULTS THAT NEVER COME, while ENABLING YOU with “help”
• Narcissists believe that “POSSESSIONS HELP” and that “GIVING HELPS.”
• “That’s not true!” says the Narcissist.
• “That’s bull shit!” says the Narcissist.

Narcissists will DEFEND their tactics.

Wait! So… what if I want to give to people JUST BECAUSE I love to give to people?

Ask WHY you love giving to people.

Ask WHAT do you FEEL when you give to people?

GIFTING is not HELPING and should NOT follow “good emotions.”

GIFTING does not HELP anyone. GIFTING is only for the GIVER. NOT for the RECEIVER.

Gifting and Helping ATTACKS and COMPROMISES Responsilbity and

• Healthy people PROTECT THEIR RESPONSIBILITY and PRESERVE the RESPONSIBILITY of others.
• Healthy people DON’T help others without compensation. They call this “TOUGH LOVE.”
• Healthy people SEEK the Equal Footing AND PRESERVE IT.
• Healthy people FEEL and TRUST the Energy and THROW AWAY THE WORDS
• Healthy people DO NOT LISTEN TO THE WORDS until and unless the SPEAKER takes off the mask, is VULNERABLE and JOINS THEM ON EQUAL FOOTING and PRESERVES IT.
• Healthy people USE TRADE and EVEN EXCHANGE with HONEST, TRANSPARENT ACTION to FILTER OUT THE NARCISSISTS.
• Healthy people FEEL the TRUTH, IGNORE the words, and WATCH FOR PROMISED RESULTS.
• Healthy people VALUE POST-ENCOURAGEMENT  and PRE-ENCOURAGEMENT above all else.
• Healthy people know that GIVING and HELPING OTHERS NURTURES dependence, invalidity, and Narcissism.
• Healthy people know that TRUE HELPING is ENCOURAGING others to EMPOWER and NOT ENABLE.
• Healthy people know that POSSESSIONS DON’T HELP. That GIVING CRIPPLES. That TRUE POWER is an EMOTION that ONLY COMES FROM ENCOURAGEMENT AND COURAGE. That True Power is the ONLY TRUE HELP.
• Healthy people know that the only way to know the Liars from the Friends is to TAKE OFF THE MASKS.

1. TAKE OFF THE MASK. Narcissists NEVER take off the mask.
2. BE VULNERABLE. If you need help, details are in Triadic Healing Part #1a.
3. STEP ON EQUAL FOOTING with energy.
4. DON’T TALK. FEEL.
5. Talking is for Honest, Transparent, and Vulnerable Friends ONLY. “Talk is cheap.”  Talking is only VALID and TRUE AFTER the Circle of Trust Trials have been passed.