Measuring People is NOT Judging People.

Measuring People is using evaluation to determine if they are good for you.

Judging People is “Damning” them or looking down on them, finding ways to make them Less than you.

 

I met the love of my life in 2021. By 2022, we both had one vast, realization: This was the One. But… I had children.

While most people would think, “Phsaw! So what! If it’s love, do it!”

But I had done that once and had learn too well the damage done.

In 1992, I met who I thought was “my best friend.” This boy became a man and, in 1999, I thought he was “The One.” We were separated for 10 years.

The way my parents had raised me, “In a loving and Christian home” attracted pedophiles to me like flies to honey. Nothing attracts pedophiles like naive innocence. So my parents, determined to over protect, groomed me for pedophilia.

When, in 2009, my “best friend” returned, I had 3 children. Without question, I brought him into my home. I knew him since I was 12 after all. He loathed my children. He beat them to control me. I later found out that he would practice terrorism and torture tactics on them to force “confessions” from them.

In 2020, he threw me out because I was too old to breed.

In November 2020, I met someone who turned out to be a pedophile. He hid it well. Too well and it ended in early 2021 with me in the Mental Hospital, too “insane” to handle what he had told me he had done.

Fortunately, I had learned. “I had known this “best friend” of mine for 28 years and I didn’t know him at all.” I vowed, “No man will know my children ever again!” So when I met this in pedophile in 2020, I already knew he would never meet my children.

My adamant resolve that I will never allow a man into my children’s lives was solid.

In 2021, I met someone else. This relationship was very… VERY different than anything I had ever known in all my life. It was intended to be a “fling” or a “thing” and it became much, much more.

But I had a vow. My children.

This brought up a topic that, I think, most people are unaware of.

How do you “KNOW” someone?

I had known this “best friend” for 28 years and I didn’t know him.

I had known this pedophile 3 months and I had known him enough to get the fuck away fast.

And now here I am with the man I love, my life partner, asking the question… How do I know when I know them?

Can we all just pause and ask that question?

“How do I know when I know them?”

The answer?

When they take off the mask.

When they live, every day, honest with themselves. I don’t wear masks. I don’t.

I don’t know how.

All of you do. I don’t know how you do it. I can teach you, show you how to live without a mask. I can teach you, show you how to use people as mirrors to see yourself.

I can teach you how to look at yourself in Story, People, and in yourself. I can teach you how to be honest with yourself. And… I think that is what a mask is. It’s Dishonesty and Self-Preservation.

When you use Discernment, Knowledge, and the 4th Ethic (Personal Law and Boundary), you don’t have to wear a mask.

And I think this is the problem. We use “time” to decide if someone is “a good person.” But we don’t even know if we are good people. My god do we need the Ethics… In our lives.

So how do you know when someone is a “Good” Person?

It’s a combination of things.

1 – How do they make you feel? Your Intuition is the first thing to defer to.

2 – Become very, very aware about the differences between STRANGER and FRIEND.

3 – Tell them “No.” See how they respond. Just watch and feel.

4 – Follow your Circle of Trust

5 – Does it feel Right? Does it feel Good? Does it give you Joy?